I agree with you. It's up to the parents to figure out an environment where the kid will be okay in 10 years. Hard to argue for intentionally pulling someone back just to conform if there is nothing wrong with what they're doing.

(most) kids will learn how to interact with the rest of society at one point.

Children need to develop the soft skills necessary to deal with the fact that crab bucket mentality is very real and can very easily ruin their lives if they can't figure out how to deal with it. Reducing "development" to "how big factoid sponges can I make my child" is not going to help with that.